Actively tackling challenges with appropriate amounts of support builds self-confidence. The family is a child’s first community. They feel a stronger connection through contributing to the family – being an active part with observable results. Most of us learn by doing, and mistakes are part of that. Give them parts that can help but not set you back too much if something goes wrong. Spilling is not a tragedy, just a chance to learn to clean it up. (Make sure you keep your phone well away from potential problems.)
The time to encourage their participation is when they want it, not when you are sure that they will be successful. Take the time to break the task down into its component parts. Train and support them as they learn those parts. An example is putting away dishes. What cabinets and drawers can they safely reach? That tells you which dishes or silverware they can put away first. Then teach them the tricks to getting the dishes to the cabinet without dropping them.
Inspire the family to tackle large tasks whenever possible. Large tasks range from packing together for a long trip to deep cleaning the living room or helping someone in the community. Remember to break down the tasks and spend the time for training and offering emotional support. With inspiration, tone matters a lot. “Let’s go!” or “It’s time,” said in an upbeat and determined way can help get things moving forward.
Long-range parenting 